Do you know how to stay grounded and centered no matter what is going on in the world around you?
Our churches and schools are not trained to provide us with the type of solution-oriented problem solving abilities that could permanently enhance the quality of our day-to-day lives.
So where can we get the answers to our most essential life question: “How to ensure peace of mind, clarity and focus even when our activity levels are high?”
Obviously, an online search is simply going to offer more data … more information … and we are on information overload! The answers we seek are within!
What we require is a quiet enough mind to remain consciously aware of our thoughts, reactions and “automatic pilot” responses to familiar triggers that can get us spinning.
To reverse old patterns of self-neglect or even self-abuse, for example, requires an acute awareness of how we talk to ourselves. If our body communicates that we are stressed by presenting us with tense shoulders or lower back pain, for instance, do we ignore it? Do we judge it?
Or do we listen as attentively to our own bodies as we would listen to our friend if she were stressed? Stopping long enough to provide care and compassion to our own physical, emotional and even financial needs will go a long way in nipping anxiety in the bud.
Replacing internal dialogue with more encouraging messages, especially during the most challenging times in your life, will calm you down enough to make sound decisions about how to proceed.
But most people don’t afford themselves the time to inventory their life situation. It requires a routine. A good time to check in with yourself is Friday night or Sunday morning. Ask yourself these questions:
How am I feeling?
What do I need?
Is there anything I am doing that I either don’t want to be doing or that I need more support with?
Am I just as good at receiving as I am at giving? Who has offered to help me in some way that I did not allow?
How do I sabotage myself from living the life that I really want to live?
What do I need to do differently to ensure that I keep my own stress levels down?
Decide what, if any, adjustments you would like to make in relation to how you spend your time. Then, implement new routines or habits that will enable you to gracefully move forward. Create a practical, step-by-step plan to support a life that reflects your values.
Whether you need to simply provide yourself with a boost or you are ready to completely overhaul your life, make time for a periodic whole life tune up.
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Sunny Massad, Ph.D. is the Founder and President of the Hawaii Wellness Institute and author of UnTherapy: A Positive Psychology for Enlightened Living.